Thanks for the various messages of support, everyone! Yes, it's disturbing when a post-op person says they regard themselves as an 'apprentice woman' (I like this phrase) with some way to go. Many people see the genital surgery as the finishing touch, the final affirmation of womanhood,and don't want to hear that it's only another stage completed.
I was accused by Teagan and her cronies of not being ready for surgery, because I thought the way I did. As if I hadn't thought it all through, whereas I jolly well had, and saw a huge amount of work ahead. It was as unrealistic as getting a brilliant science degree, and then expecting the Nobel Prize to come along without years of research! Or moving to a foreign country, and wanting to blend in and be taken for granted as a native inhabitant, and yet expecting to achieve that without years of assiduous observation and gradual absorption of the entire culture. (I put that simile to Teagan as a comment, but she deleted it.)
Well, I have no worries about seeming apostate. Facts must be faced. If my words seem threatening, just keep hold of the assurance that what I say about myself, however shocking, is not something you should project onto yourself.
Some trans people have deep problems, and need support, not destructive criticism. I'm not going to bash Teagan or anyone else. She needs goodwill, and the helping spirit exemplified by the biblical tale of the Good Samaritan. So do I, although I have to say, in my experience, the righteous are quicker to turn away than cross the road to enquire and assist.
Bottom line: live and let live.
And as for all being girls together, as if we're all the same, please get real. It's nice to feel part of a big society, but I'm firmly in the world as it is, and not in some fairytale wonderland with a special belief-system of its own.