Friday, 30 October 2009

Alternative names before the Deed is done

Of course, it doesn't have to be 'Lucy Melford'. It's my life, my identity, and perhaps I should reconsider.

'Lucy' does in fact have some of the sounds of my old first name, especially the 'oo'. It also carries the notion of 'light', which is very appropriate for a person who snaps away with her camera a lot. Perhaps then I should go Greek and call myself 'Phota'. Then it could be something like 'Phota McFloater', or 'Phota Phinnish'. Hmmm. Something unnatural about those names.

On balance it seems best to stick to what I've been calling myself for the last ten months!

Aren't trans people privileged, to be able to change their name to something entirely their own choice, for a cast-iron reason that nobody can argue about? One of the nicer things that happen along the way.

6 comments:

  1. I have always thought kids should get a temporary child name and the chance to choose their adult name themselves later. perhaps this is the trans bit of me speaking but millions must hate their given names.

    Lucy has always seemed to suit you as I read your blogs.

    Caroline xx

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  2. I think that too, Caroline, about the provisional name.

    I sometimes think I should have chosen a less unusual name, though I rarely use the full version and chose it because it is an extension of the name I adopted in my teens. Had I chosen to be known by a more obviously female name, it might have helped other people with the shift.

    Anyway... Lucy is a good name!

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  3. you got me thinking, by the way, and latest blog looks at ....names.

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  4. What Dru said.

    I do think a clear feminine name makes the point clearer to others...and I use Josephine more now than I used to because Jo suffers from ambiguity (though my closest friends call me Jo and know what it means).

    You also, of course, have the second name to choose as well, if you want. Mine is Juliette. I liked the sound of Josephine Juliette, and I have one good friend who does sometimes call me JJ :-)

    I think society's attempt to give a child a choice in later life is one of the ideas behind giving them lots of forenames. I have known people choosing from these names in later life.

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  5. Lucy Melford has a comfortable ring to it, you write like I'd expect a Lucy Melford to.

    I saw Dru's post first so I've been thinking about names this morning and I remembered that my parents in fact chose Andrew for me. I was going to be a boy up to the moment I arrived so I consider Angela not bad for a hasty choice

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  6. Erm, trans privilege on being able to choose a name. I'm not sure it is privilege, sure most people can't choose their name, or more accurately don't choose to choose, or change, their name. But that dubious privilege comes at the huge price of all the 'stuff' a transition brings. Given a choice I'd much rather have a given name as a child and see that through life without the ragged implications of GID.

    At the risk of contradicting myself, though, I never felt I chose my female name, it was 'given' to me, much as my born name was, save that the latter was from my parents, and the forma from a source unkown - but I distinctly remember the piece of road I was driving at the time.

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