Wednesday, 26 August 2009

The Real Life Experience

I'm a bit puzzled as to what the term 'Real Life Experience' can mean for a person who isn't in work, is frankly never going to work again, but is quietly getting on with a female life on a full-time basis, making friends, doing normal social things, about to put her trans name on her electoral register form, and will as soon as possible legally change her name by Deed Poll.

I can't seem to find any express guidance to cover non-employees on the Internet. Can any trans lawyer out there assist? Or failing that, what are ordinary people's opinions on this?


  1. Hi Lucy!

    Thanks for following my blog. I read your blog a few times before, and finding it interesting, I meant to become a follower, but obviously something distracted me. I'm correcting that right now!

    When you talk of real life experience, and going full time in retirement, I know from whence you speak. I'm retired as well, and as far as I'm concerned, I have nothing to prove to anyone anymore. I just want to live as who I am, regardless of any official sanctions.


  2. I too am at a loss as to what use the RLE is for a retired person...

    I think there is somehting in the bumpf that says full-time voluntary work is acceptable is such circumstances, but why it should be compulsory is beyond me.


  3. Thanks both. It's just that I want to get my Gender Recognition Certificate asap and having a past period of RLE is a requirement. Hence the question of what to do and how to prove it.

    Why the Certificate? Mainly because I've realised that if officially female I can get my State Pension nearly three years sooner. That's worth about £13,000 or $21,000 and would help cover a few transition costs. (Sorry to seem so mercenary, but I don't think it's unreasonable to have this money when I'm funding everything myself)

    I also want all possible legal rights, and something to wave in the face of any quibbling official. (Sorry to sound litigious and full of attitude)


  4. I would like to see our society get to the point, where gender markers are no longer required on any official documents. Race has already been removed from many documents here in the US. Why should gender be any different? If your name and the picture on your drivers license and passport show you as female, then it should be perfectly obvious to anyone, that you are living as a female and should be treated as such. As a society, we still have a long way to go, to get to true equality under the law.


  5. No doubt meaningful equality will eventually come, but it hasn't yet for natal men and women, and so what can those who are in transition expect? It really needs a trans President. Now there's an idea...


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